The Request (From Congo's Civil War to America: A Memoir of Survival, Identity, and Keeping a Last Promise)

In this powerful memoir of resilience, forgiveness, and a mother’s “divine resourcefulness,” a Congolese child-refugee of war searches for belonging while seeking acceptance in diverse American communities. Through the creative and healing power of dance, they navigate past trauma and transform pain into purpose.

Firmly rooted in the rich heritage of the Democratic Republic of Congo, Deo Mwano begins his story with recollections of his hometown Mbanza Ngungu. This city was far from the Zairian capital of Kinshasa, where his father served as an officer aligned with the prominent Zairean General Dantien Mahele, a would-be peacemaker, before the fall of the Mobutu regime. Reflecting on the colonial legacy, the linguistic mélange, the abundant flavors, textures, and music of Zaire, Mwano takes readers on a journey through the conflicts that shaped his childhood, the political upheavals, and war that forcibly resettled his family thousands of miles from his birthplace.

In New Hampshire, new struggles emerge as his family works to build a life in America, never far from the memories of the violence they escaped. As Deo shoulders responsibilities beyond his years, he is thrust into early adulthood. Seeking community through faith, refuge in dance, and healing in sharing his story, he searches for a way forward. Anchoring him on this difficult path is his father’s lasting charge: “Take care of the people I love. Take care of your mother and your little brothers.”