Stay with Yourself (A Soft and Fierce Framework to Live Authentically in a World That Wants You to Please, Appease, and Override Your God-Given Voice)

With her signature blend of warm compassion and clinical expertise, trauma therapist Aundi Kolber helps you leave people-pleasing and over-accommodating behind—and step into a life fully aligned with who God made you to be.

Sometimes it feels like the only way to keep everything from falling apart is to leave behind your own needs, desires, and opinions. You wish things were different, of course. But the panic you feel at the prospect of change is enough to keep you right where you are.

There is a different way of being in the world. In Stay With Yourself, critically acclaimed author of Try Softer and trauma therapist, Aundi Kolber guides you on the complicated and courageous personal growth journey of healing from experiences, relationships, or systems that teach you to constantly abandon yourself. Combining rich personal story and professional knowledge, Aundi helps you take compassionate ownership over your life, even when things are uncomfortable, emotional, challenging, or hard.

In these pages, you’ll discover how to:

• identify the fawn trauma response in your behaviors and process the past pain that keeps you stuck in the cycle of self-betrayal
• forge a healthy connection with others while becoming—and staying—secure in who we are as unique individuals
• create the internal safety needed to reclaim your inner voice and true self
• listen to your inner wisdom instead of outsourcing it to others
• lovingly set and hold personal boundaries

You don’t have to keep participating in your own harm. You, at the pace you’re able, can cease organizing yourself around whatever threatens you. You can learn what it means to do the inner work and walk in integrity on your own God-given path. Not in opposition to the spiritual, embodied path of those who walk in the way of Jesus but in accordance with it. You deserve to build the capacity to move, one tiny step at a time, toward staying with yourself.